8 Ways To Love Yourself By Practising Self Care

By Ilse de Graaf

Loving yourself whilst losing weight might seem like a difficult task, after all you are losing weight because you don’t love yourself, right? Well, not always. Wanting to change your lifestyle by getting healthy and loving your body the way it is don’t have to be mutually exclusive. You can still love yourself from your core and not like your body at that moment in time.



Start by looking at the bigger picture and thinking of your weight in terms of your overall well being. That means not just focusing on the numbers on a scale, the way your clothes fit or even the way you see yourself in the mirror. By starting your weight loss journey from a place of self love and acceptance, you are more likely to set achievable goals and allow for any setbacks you may encounter without turning on yourself or giving up. You can achieve anything when you put your mind to it Ninja, but your mind has to be filled with positive thoughts and self love.

Here at Weight Loss Ninja our overall goal is mindset and lifestyle change, a healthy mind leads to a healthy body. Part of that mindset change is about learning to love yourself, below I share 8 of my favorite ways to practice self care in an expression of self love.

Acceptance is a powerful tool. By accepting the things that you cannot change right now you become more compassionate to yourself and others around you, if you accept what is present you can work towards changing to your ideal in the future. Self acceptance however is very different to self love, it is a stepping stone on a journey to self love. Acknowledging that we accept various qualities in ourselves doesn’t mean that you are not open to changing them, you can still change your lifestyle and be in a place of complete acceptance.

Establish a routine
When you think of a routine you typically think about your alarm going off, getting out of bed and heading to the bathroom, taking a shower, brushing your teeth etc. What if I told you a routine doesn’t have to be bland. A routine can be about taking some ‘you time’ back. A routine doesn’t have to be limited to the mornings either, you can create a loving evening routine. It could look like this:

Make a nice calming herbal tea / your favorite turmeric milk recipe
Run a hot bath with a drop of your favorite essential oil in or even a relaxing bath bomb
Light a candle that you love
Soak for an hour with a homemade face / hair mask
Spray your pillow with pillow mist
Meditate in bed for 10 minutes
Cover your eyes with an eye mask and go to sleep

By establishing a self care routine you are taking the power back from your day. You either start your day with an invigorating routine that will set you up for whatever is thrown at you or you finish your day with a routine that helps you to unwind and have a restorative sleep.

Starting a journal will give you perspective on your emotions and thoughts. It will also help you organize your thoughts in order to clarify things. It forces you to really think about the situations and thoughts that live inside you, which is the ultimate self care. When you keep a diary, feelings will arise you may not have known you had. Don’t force yourself to write things the way you think they “should be”, just let your thoughts flow. Let your pen do the work and write down everything that comes to mind. Don’t judge what comes out, just let it happen and see what insights you gain.

Make time for the things you love
How many times have you started a new book that inevitably ends up becoming a holiday read? Finding time to maintain hobbies can be challenging, especially with the rise of social media. It is extremely important to make time for the things you love. This could mean finding time to cook more at home or dine out more regularly. It could be as simple as finding time to play with your children more. Don’t feel obligated to go to a work social event when what you really want to do is go home early and watch a film with your husband/partner. Whatever it is, make time.

Speak to yourself (positively)
Speaking to yourself can be extremely powerful, that goes for both negatively and positively. Often you are your own worst critic but what if you were your biggest fan? Start the day with a morning mantra:

“I am beautiful, I am POWERful, I am strong, I am proud, I have a beautiful family, I have a supportive partner, I have a thriving career, I like the person I am”

Whenever you are feeling deflated, give yourself an inspiring pep talk and witness how this changes your mindset immediately.

Write yourself notes
Similarly to speaking to yourself, writing yourself a note can really change a negative mindset into a positive one. Leave yourself a note on your dressing table “Remember you are amazing”, leave yourself a note in your purse “Remember you are valued”, leave yourself a note in the back of your phone “Remember you can do this”. You never know when a little note of encouragement might come at exactly the right time.

Take yourself on a date
Is it weird to date yourself? Absolutely not. Improving your relationship with yourself is like improving any other relationship, you have to work at it. Get dressed up in an outfit that makes you feel amazing and head to your favorite lunch spot or coffee shop. Or take yourself to the park for an afternoon stroll, you could even head to a museum or art gallery or take a life drawing class OR have a spa day! Whatever it is that you love, make some time to enjoy your own company.

Go offline with a digital detox
I dread to think how long we actually spend staring at our laptops and phones, life didn’t used to be like this and neither does it have to be. Take a digital detox, it could be 24 hours, it could be 48 hours – whatever works for you. But what if something happens and nobody can get a hold of me? It’s a fair question. Let your loved ones know you are taking a digital detox and tell them how they can get a hold of you in case of an emergency (i.e. by contacting a neighbour). Now your emergency contact is arranged, you can take a tech free day without any niggling feelings creeping into your day.

Go ahead Ninja, I invite you to LOVE YOURSELF. Take some time for you and feel the benefits afterwards.

If you were to take yourself on a date, where would you go? Comment below.

Ps. Are you ready to Lose Weight With POWER? Then you’re in the right place, you can find my book here.

With gratitude and self love, go and have the best week Ninja!

xx Ilse

Founder & Coach
Weight Loss Ninja